Friday, August 13, 2010

An update-y sort of post

Perfect Posture, PERFECT POSTURE
Sit up straight, Sit up STRAIGHT
Grow up to be pr-e-e-ty
Grow up to be h-a-aa-a-ndsome
Do not slouch
DO NOT SLOUCH!

Just in case you've been wondering why I haven't been blogging of late (yeah right, I know), its because I've been spending every waking moment singing the afore mentioned 'Perfect Posture' song to Nikki. Well, not entirely true, we do take a break now and then for 'Baa Baa Black Sheep' and 'Do you have a Sunshine Smile?', but mostly its 'Perfect Posture' All.Day.Long. I guess this is her way of making me pay for all the times I made her listen to Dekha Tujhe Dekha, my all time fave song from Billu Barber when I was pregnant. At the time I used to think the baby was enjoying it too, considering all the activity that would start inside whenever the song came on, but now it only seems to make her angst-y so I'm thinking maybe not. So anyway, Perfect Posture is one of the many many (sigh) songs they sing at the mother toddler group and observant little Nikki likes a replay at home with the accompanying hand movements and all.
"Good Morning Nikki!" I'll say in a tremulous voice as she opens her eyes at the crack of dawn. "Shall I switch on some nice jazz for you? Or Yanni perhaps?"
"Hah, nice try!" snorts Nikki fixing me with a beady look. And then she slaps her knees in a commandeering way, signaling that it is time to start with 'Perfect Posture', the first rendition of many to come during the day.It has to be sung with the right intonations and accompanying hand gestures too, else some angry shrieks thrown my way demand that I start all over again. She remembers ever single nuance, just the way the teachers sing it at school. Of course all these brilliant powers of observation are kept on hold while we're at school where she refuses to display any of her many talents.
"Twinkle Twinkle Little Star" the teacher will say "Show me your stars children!"
Most of the other kids around immediately oblige with the appropriate hand gesture bunching up their fingers like twinkling stars. Young Nikki examines her nails and gives a bored yawn.
"Nikki? Where are your stars darling?" asks the teacher hopefully. "Where are Nikki's stars? Oh okay, where are Nikki's fingers?"
Nikki's fingers are promptly stuck up her nose and a particularly obdurate glance is thrown at the teacher.
"Oh all right" says the defeated woman "Maybe she doesn't like this song, ha ha!"
Yeah right. Even the  auto wallah who ferries us to school everyday can sing it verbatim by now. With the accompanying hand gestures too, considering how Nikki metamorphoses into her "Let's revise everything we did in school today" mode the minute we step out of the school premises. This also means that while we are in the school she refuses to participate in most of the activities mom and baby are supposed to do together. Most of the other mom baby groups sit in nice little pairs with the mom manoeuvring baby's hands as they sing along to the song of the day. That looks cute. In our case, Nikki flings my hands away and trots off to a corner if I so much as try to touch her, while I do the whole song and act jig on my own. That does not look cute, I can assure you.
"Roly-Poly, Roly-Poly, Up, Up, Up!" I sing hopefully, rolling my hands around like a circus clown who's forgotten how to juggle.
"Get a life mother!" Nikki seems to say as she glowers at me from a corner.
Oh well. The good part is she really is enjoying  school tremendously and is learning loads of stuff. Like she now lets me brush her teeth instead of screaming blue murder whenever I approach her with her toothbrush because that's something the teachers show at school. And she's also learning to self feed with a spoon and a fork. Speaking of which she's majorly into pretend play these days and likes to pretend feed all her toys. She has become rather attached to a large doll, almost as large as Nikki herself, which my dad had gifted her and insists on having her around at mealtimes. She then attempts to feed the doll with a little bowl and spoon, making pretend munching sounds herself :) When we read books together, Dolly is always around too to listen to the story. We take Dolly with us when we go to the park, even though all she does is sit dolefully in the pram while Nikki runs amok pulling out flowers and leaves and clumps of grass. And we even put Dolly to bed before Nikki's own bedtime, Nikki pats her to sleep herself while I sing a lullaby. Inspired by all this, I thought it might be a good idea to involve Dolly in the all important Project Potty Training which we have embarked on these days. A few attempts of "Look what Dolly does when she wants to poop Nikki!" and "Oooh when Dolly wants to poop she sits on the potty!" have followed which don't seem to interest Nikki in the least bit. Any tips on how to go about potty training are most welcome!

In other news, Nikki seems to be going through some bit of separation anxiety these days, so its Mama! Mama! all day long. If I try going for a longer than usual shower or a bit of a lie in on weekends anxious cries of Mama! begin to resonate through the house. When she first started displaying this behavior I was quite overcome at this hereto undisplayed show of affection. So the first cry of Mama! would see me emerge sopping wet from the shower of spring out of bed with an eager "Yes Nikki? Mommy is here!", only to be met with a dismissive "Oh there you are. Run along now, just stay where I can see you so I know you're still here." Then there is this other new thing of getting stuff from all over the house to me and insisting that I hold it. It won't be uncommon for random visitors to my house to find me sitting at the dining table, trying to eat my lunch with Nikki's entire collection of soft toys piled up in my lap or on the couch trying to read a book with the day's newspapers, car keys, kitchen towels, bath mats and floor cushions for company. Any attempt to dislodge this carefully selected assortment is met with instant and earth shattering shrieks so I prefer to just stay put. Nikki's also become more demanding of my time now, wanting me to actively engage in activities with her as opposed to earlier when she was quite happy to potter about on her own. She does spend a fair bit of alone time too but just when I think she's quite happy playing with her shape sorter or her doll, a tiny, red faced little person will attach herself to my hip making it quite obvious from her expression that she's rather miffed at this blatant lack of attention. And now Her Majesty is back after a (rather short) nap and its that time of the day again. And if you don't know what I mean just go right back to the beginning of this post.

15 comments:

Vandana said...

FINALLY a new post! Hey you better learn to type while singing Perfect Posture so we don't go too long without reading your fun posts. And Nikki updates are always fun I think you should do these more often!

Unknown said...

*Chuckles* I want to see u do Roly poly up up up.. :) pass my love to nikki plsssssssss. shes so adorable and I can so imagine her doing that! LOL

But I also like u.. so Hugssssss
hang in there. Its a bumpy ride forward.

Unknown said...

PS: did i tell u i loveeeee the way u blog. Cracks me up totally.

Swaram said...

I ws wondering y u r nt posting. Glad to c a update here. Wil b bk to read :P :P

Swaram said...

Ha ha ha. Err sorry, I am nt laughing @ ur situation ahem but Nikki brought this huge grin on me today :)
Hw sweet of her :) nice to know she is enjoying school :)

Garima said...

How cute.... I have no idea how I landed on the bolg, but its amazing to read about al ittle one growing up.. i have a 2.5 year old myself, so can realte to a few things.
In front of any audience, my daughter will get all silly and start singing mummy mummy in the tune of the song and the minute she is home, she will recite the poem!
I dont know how old little Nikki is.. but for Potty Training, leave her diaperless in her fav. character panty. If there is an accident, she will realise she wet.. say "Dora" and then slowly less accidents and more potty training.
Hope this helps... Look forward to reading more!

Diary Of A Stardusted Dreamer said...

Vandana...I think I better learn to do a lot more things while singing Perfect Posture if I am to have any semblance of a life!!

MM...Hmph! I may not be too good at Roly Poly but I'll have you know that I am an ace when it comes to Dorothy the Dinosaur. I can beat all the other mommies hollow with my dinosaur jig. And the ride is going to get bumpier???? I thought it'll get easier as she grows older! Mumeeeeeeeeeeee!!!

Swaram...Oh yes she's enjoying school all right- at my expense!! Sigh.

Garima...Hi there, thanks for dropping by. Nikki is nearly 17 months old so I figured its a good time to start potty training now. Thanks hugely for the tip, its a big help. Off to check your blog now and hope to see you here more often.

Sherry said...

Sheeeeeeeeeeeeeee's back! :D good to see your blog up and running again!
Say, did you get any tips on that potty training yet? one of my friends tried a 'fast-track' 3 day intensive potty training course on her (then) 20 month old toddler, but with disastrous results (read: goo all over the walls, the works).. But the same friend did manage to PT the chappie after a while.. quite successfully too, i must say... will get back to you after i get the lowdown from her..

Diary Of A Stardusted Dreamer said...

Wow now that is scary! 3 day intensive PT program eh? Don't think I have the stomach for that! Or the walls for that matter, us tenants can't have such lofty ideals. But yeah, do let me know how she went about it later...and thanks!

Rohini said...

Cute :)

If it makes you feel any better, both my kids were born with separation anxiety and the brat's was going strong till he was almost three!

comfortablynam said...

The entire household on my lap..check..
Shower what shower..check..
Did you say nap??..check

Fav poem - Slippery fish..can go on all day with it..

Potty Training..not started yet..but she has started to say Diaper just before she goes potty..so maybe it is time.. YIKES..

Diary Of A Stardusted Dreamer said...

Rohini...Good grief, and here I was hoping she would outgrow it in a couple of months! How did you handle it? My style, primarily consisting of tearing my hair out, doesn't seem to be working. It doesn't help that I seem to be surrounded by supremely sociable kids who wouldn't know separation anxiety if it came and stared them in the face.

Diary Of A Stardusted Dreamer said...

comfortablynam...I hear you sister. Let me know how it goes with the potty training. I've been screaming myself hoarse with chants of 'Go Potty Go!' (rather cute video on you tube) but the only effect it has had is make the child break into a jig with a marked disregard for the potty itself.

Gayatri said...

Hello,

Fun read but I was in your place just a while back so I can empathise with you.
If Nikki likes books, you can get a book on the subject and slowly start the process. The key is not to expect the same results that other parents have got. I was upset initially that my child did not seem to get the concept but eventually it worked out. The more expectation you have, the more frustrated you will feel which will have negative results. Just keep at it and yes, get pull ups so that you don't have to clean up majorly if there was an accident. You can take her to toilet every 2 hrs or so and slowly she will learn to tell you when she wants to go. The essential routine is after waking up in the morning, before going for a nap and before going to sleep. As you progress you can slowly shift to underwear. Hope this helps and I did not bore you with details.
Good luck.

Diary Of A Stardusted Dreamer said...

Hey thanks a lot, this is really helpful. Am currently working on getting a routine in place but she doesn't seem to have a fixed time for when she poops so struggling with that. Anyway will keep at it like you say :)
Is there any book on the subject you can recommend? Thanks again!